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Maddy’s Men: A Comparison and Contrast

I’ve noted in other posts the dire cultural consequences we’re currently dealing with as a direct result of the so-called sexual revolution and women’s liberation of the 1960s. In a two-part column entitled Cyberspace and the Single (Conservative) Girl, which appeared on Parcbench, The Republican Temple and Palin Drone, I explored the ramifications of the “turbulent” decade for traditional women like me, based on a real-life experience with a guy I’d met online last year.

Sadly, for those of us who were raised to actually demand respect from men, believe in the joys of sex within the confines of a marital — or at the very least — an exclusive, committed relationship, and appreciate such antiquated courtesies like a man holding open a door, picking up the tab for a meal or offering his seat on a bus, dating in the contemporary world is daunting at best, and depressing at worst.

While the men who engage in bad behavior are by no means unaccountable, their confusion is certainly understandable. Women who claimed to speak for their entire gender — people like Gloria Steinem, Jane Fonda and Betty Freidan — made it crystal clear through their activism that “girl power” meant having meaningless sex with multiple partners, procuring abortion on demand for any ol’ reason (no matter how dubious), diminishing the important role of fathers in the lives of children, condemning all acts of war regardless of the facts, and overall zealously subscribing to the gospel of liberalism.

Never mind that that female pioneers like Susan B. Anthony were staunchly pro-life and pro-family, with a focus on holding men accountable to their crucial roles as husband, father and family provider.

Having been raised in a traditional home with parents who fall somewhere in-between the Greatest Generation and the Baby Boomers, I am eternally grateful for my upbringing and for my first-hand observation of what it means to have a loving, respectful marriage and household. Unfortunately, it also meant that I was in for a very rude awakening when it was time to participate in the dating rituals of the late 20th and early 21st Centuries.

Without rehashing the Evolution of Water Signs here, I will just note that when the flood of memories initiated an almost out-of-control stream of consciousness that demanded the creation of a novel, I realized just how dramatically different my experience with the real-life Ken had been from just about every other guy I’d ever dated. Therefore, I purposely included many of them as fictional characters, for the purpose of setting up a contrast to the Ken character, and to assist (no matter how painfully) in Madeline’s personal growth and spiritual development.

So let’s take a look at them in-depth, shall we:

Jake Winston – Jake is modeled after a guy I’d dated after college, my first “long-term” boyfriend. Although in reality, this relationship lasted about a year-and-a-half, in the book I changed that to two years. More than any other non-Ken suitor, Jake is also an embodiment of the novel’s theme of forgiveness, and the sole non-Ken suitor with any real redeeming qualities. Like his flesh-and-blood counterpart, he is overly and cruelly critical at times of Madeline’s appearance, as well as her family’s cherished customs, including getting dressed up for holidays. Thanks to Jake, Maddy’s insecurities have been intensified to the point where it’s all but impossible for her to trust in Ken’s sincerity during their first go-around. But to his great credit, this character (like the real man) eventually undertakes a self-imposed, spiritual housecleaning, prompting him to call Madeline out-of-the-blue to genuinely seek her forgiveness years later. Although there’s no desire on her part to reignite that relationship, she truly appreciates and respects his courage in taking such a bold action, and offers her complete absolution.

Gary Snyder – Gary is also inspired by a real-life character I met while conducting outside sales calls for an employment agency in suburban Philadelphia. Like so many I’ve encountered, he committed the ol’ bum’s rush, apparently noticing (and liking) me as I gave my best sales pitch to the receptionist at the insurance company whose business I’d been seeking. Although I saw him pass by briefly, I’d hardly given him a second thought — that is until I received an unexpected delivery of white roses upon my return to the office.  Actually, that’s how it went down for Maddy in the book; in real life, it was quite a comedy of errors as he’d inadvertently sent the flowers to the wrong woman. However, for both Madeline and me, the rest of the story is the same: after a few good dates where we’d seemed to connect well, we made plans to meet up at the Jersey Shore. But when I showed up at his rental in Ocean City as agreed upon, he couldn’t get rid of me fast enough. And that was the extent of my interaction with Gary “white roses” Snyder (and yes, I did change his name for the book).

Jim Russo –  Ah Jim, bless his heart, another high-powered businessman I unknowingly attracted during yet another outside sales call when his friendly, gate-keeper receptionist took my card and promised to call if they ever had a need for a temp. And just like me, Maddy follows up with him the next week with a promotional gift. That leads to the flirtatious Jim asking her out, initiating series of lunch-only dates and cutesy faxes to her office but curiously, no after-hours get-togethers. In the book, a suspicious Maddy finally gets to the bottom of it via Jim’s receptionist, who informs her that he not only has a serious girlfriend, he’s about to get married; in real-life, I never did get a straight answer out of the guy and thus, ran as far away as I could. Real name changed for the novel, although most everything else is true to life, including the upscale lunch at the famous Duling-Kurtz House. And yes, my sister-in-law (Vanessa in the book) was very impressed by his choice of venue, though not so much his behavior.

Mark Donnelly – Next to Jake, Mark is probably the most significant non-Ken suitor. In a slight departure from real life, this character is the very first guy Maddy dates in South Florida (in real life, I’d gone out with a quite a few guys, though nothing serious, before meeting him) — right around the time Ken breaks her heart by announcing his engagement to Erin. Physically, Mark shares many of Ken’s characteristics: six-foot, masculine build; blue eyes; sandy blond hair; and an irresistible smile. These similarities prompt her to project many of her true love’s qualities onto him. Like Ken, he’s also quite charming and initially, very persistent in his pursuit. And just as it went down with the others, Maddy is tending to her own affairs, participating in  a business networking function where she unknowingly catches Mark’s wandering eye. True to reality, when he calls her at the office to ask her out a few days later, she cannot for the life of her remember even meeting him, in spite of the fact she’d written him a follow-up note.

Like the others, Mark also comes on strong, then abruptly disappears, although the circumstances are a bit more complicated. In contrast to the other suitors, he’s the first divorced man with children that Madeline dates, causing a great deal of sexual tension, thanks to the intense, mutual attraction they share. And while it’s safe to say he’s quite curious about Madeline’s moral virtue, unlike Ken it’s not something he respects or is willing to deal with for any extended amount of time. This is after all, South Florida, and if Maddy thought other women were way ahead of her up north, it was about one-hundred-thousand times worse in paradise — where pretty girls are not only a dime-a-dozen, they’re more than willing to put out  for a successful guy with the means to afford fancy cars, boats and designer clothes.

Mark’s penchant for breaking engagements and loving-and-leaving-’em is regrettably an accurate reflection of the actual person. And although this character’s time in Maddy’s life is short, it is pivotal in her character development, serving as another descriptive example of the conflict between normal, human desire and ingrained morality — but this time in a scenario lacking in any genuine feeling on the guy’s part. To Mark, Maddy is just another attractive girl in a sea of hotties. In fact, their 10-year age difference, coupled with Madeline’s  innocence and insecurities, leads him to view her as a “babe in the woods”, not a serious contender for a real relationship.  Yes, his name has been changed. And yes, Chapter 23 is — well — an embarrassing, albeit instructive, experience straight out of real life. Enough said.

Well, this post has gone on a bit longer than intended and I still haven’t discussed the characters of Ray Smith and Tag Russell. To be continued.

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Monday Morning Musings

Good morning!

Lots of exciting things in the works today, including some wonderful news pertaining to an exciting project I am spearheading with Houston a.m. talk show host Kevin Price, of  The Price of Business. Along with a talented, dedicated team of devoted writers, we’re doing our part to awaken a sense of American pride and exceptionalism within the electorate, based on factual information about our country’s Founding Fathers, documents and events.

I’ve often stated that what really ails America will not be solved by one or two election cycles. Indeed, as many others have written, the election of Barack Obama says far more about voters than it does about the man himself. Years of educational and cultural indoctrination — with its deeply entrenched entitlement mentality — will not be easily undone, which is partly why each 2010 race must be evaluated on its own merits.

As a three-legged stool (fiscal, social, peace-through-strength) conservative, I would like nothing better than to have every district represented in D.C., and on a state level exclusively with candidates who share that same brand of Reagan conservatism. Unfortunately, that’s not reality. The suffocating embrace of the nanny state is such that in avowedly liberal states like Massachusetts (which has traveled a long way from the austere work ethic and morality code of the Pilgrims), a “Scott Brown Republican” is the closest thing to conservative that could trounce yet another establishment Democrat. And yes, I’ve been disappointed in Brown’s voting record so far, as expected, although he’s still a much better option in the senate than Martha Coakley.

In the NY-23 congressional race last year, the Republican Party machine circumvented the will and participation of the people and wrongfully anointed extremely liberal, Republican-In-Name-Only Dede Scozzafava as the “next in line” (a longstanding tradition the GOP needs to jettison, pronto). Newt Gingrich was wrong, wrong, wrong to support her, and in this case, rallying around Republican-turned-Conservative candidate Doug Hoffman was the only thing to do. Sarah Palin, Fred and Jeri Thompson, and the Club for Growth all bucked the establishment by publicly supporting Hoffman, who nearly pulled off a victory. Had the Republican Party done the smart thing  by endorsing him from the start, we’d have another voice of sanity in the United States Congress at this very moment.

Speaking of Palin, her endorsement of — in her words — “commonsense conservative” Carly Fiorina over Chuch DeVore (the Reagan Republican in the race) incited an indignant firestorm among grassroots conservative activists, but this looks like another case where pragmatism and strategy necessarily took precedence over idealogical purity. If defeating far-left Barbara “Ma’am” Boxer was the ultimate goal, polls indicated Fiorina was the best candidate for the task. Would I have preferred Chuck DeVore? Absolutely.  But the question is, would Californians feel the same way?

Which brings me back to my original premise: the real problem in America today is a populace that doesn’t fully understand and/or appreciate its history, nor comprehend that “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” means actually pursuing those things through individual effort — not expecting the government to provide them for you. Dumbed down by Hollywood and a pop-culture agenda that has succeeded in large measure by using social issues to tar Republicans as all-white, all-male, repressive “fascists” who hate gay people, oppress women and subjugate minorities, it’s no wonder so few people even know that the Democrats have controlled Congress since January, 2007.

Thus, we’re dealing in many instances with entire voting blocs (hello, FL-19!) whose political philosophy is about as deep as a puddle, and can be summed up rather simply: Republicans=Evil, Democrats=Good. Forget the complexities of conservative versus RINO; Roe v. Wade as an example of anti-Constitutional, judicial overreach; and the fact that supporting traditional marriage in and of itself does not render someone a “gay-hating homophobe”. Such folks are so blinded by emotion that they cannot see the Jihad for the suicide bombers. While the Right and the Republican Party sat back and allowed the Left and the Democrat Party to control the narrative, the United States Constitution became the casualty.

About three weeks before the 2008 election, I attended a free screening of The Third Jihad, sponsored by the Florida Security Council, an anti-terror organization. While waiting in line, I struck up a conversation with several nice Jewish women — all in their 60s and 70s — and thus, well beyond child-bearing years. When asked about the election, although they had some reservations about Barack Obama, all they could obsess about was Sarah Palin’s latest campaign rally, during which she upheld her strong pro-life convictions. Never mind that Palin also railed against Obama’s radical associations with Reverend Wright and Bill Ayers, and cautioned about the need for a robust offensive against Global Jihad. The sole focus of the debate that night centered on whether or not (God forbid!) Roe v. Wade would potentially be overturned should McCain-Palin make it all the way to Pennsylvania Avenue.

Donning my Tenth Amendment hat, I attempted to approach the topic from a federalist perspective. Taking the emotion out of it, I calmly explained that — should their worst fear come to pass — should McCain appoint a judge to the Supreme Court who would help overturn Roe, the matter would simply return to the states, where it always belonged anyway. In spite of my best efforts, they didn’t budge. Apparently “a woman’s right to choose” trumped everything, including national security, in the eyes of these women. I never did get to ask them after the chilling documentary, if their vote had been swayed toward the right; how anyone could’ve voted for Obama after watching that film is beyond me. Then again, I am a “right-wing radical” who believes life begins at conception.

Thus, the importance of the forthcoming 365 Days of Liberty devotional, which will offer readers a daily lesson on the United States Constitution and the miracle that is the United States of America. It took years for the cancer of progressivism to poison our culture, and we won’t change it back overnight; it will take a steady, gradual and unrelenting effort to break the spell of public education and the entertainment industry. In the meantime, we must make the very best choices from a practical standpoint when it comes to supporting candidates. Yes, I abhor the concept of “the lesser of two evils”, but if we can emerge with a few more true conservatives in the House and Senate to outnumber the so-called “moderates” I’ll consider that a victory. At least until hearts and minds come fully into alignment with the Framers vision for the USA.

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The Most Influential Patriot Women of Facebook

Patriot women Ellen Snyder and Daria DiGiovanni with their very tall friend Dan at the first “We Surround Them” event in Greenacres, Florida.

My friends Sharon and Kerrie at the Liberal Heretic recently compiled a list of the most influential patriot women on Facebook. I am humbled and honored to be counted among such an illustrious group that includes:  Real-life friend/fellow activist Ellen Snyder, blogger extraordinaire Tabitha Hale, and good FB friends Stephanie Janiczek (a fellow teammate on an exciting project due out this fall), Kim Brubaker, Caree Severson, and Tina Trimble Belliston.

Sharon notes:

When digg got rid of the shout system, the heretics were forced to move on to greener pastures. So about a year ago we decided to give facebook a shot in order to network our site. Much to our delight, we found an amazing group of people (in the thousands) all with the same goals in mind, to obtain and dessiminate information pretaining to the plight of the country, and to form bonds and friendships with people who share the same value system. Well in the year we have been a part of the facebook patriot network, we have done just that. We want to present to you the women that we feel make a huge impact on facebook. We took the following into consideration when we compiled this list: number of friends, frequency of posts, relevance of posts and how they further the cause, and also we asked the fb community for the women they thought deserved to be mentioned. So here they are in their own words, in no specific order, the God-fearing, America loving, women of Facebook.

Click here to learn about these amazing American women. And thanks again to Sharon and Kerrie!

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